In life, we all make friends. some stay forever, some leave us and go for "better" friends, some stab us in our backs, some just walk along and some enjoy doing crazy things with you. i have had my fair share of friends till now and i will continue to make friends as i walk along the path of life.
i could not get that out of my thought. and then i realized that one cant have every bad quality in him/her. there is always something appreciable in everyone but we often have so many presumptions that we skip the good parts of them. there is always a friend in every person. usually we are so blind that we cant see them.
i have learnt that sometimes when friends mock us, they actually want us to improve. their intention is not to hurt us but to bring out the best in us. ever thought when friends comment us on our accent? or on our dressing sense? what good would it do to them if we speak better or wear better outfits? nothing. it will only improve our personality. still every-time someone comments on us, we backfire just like a gun that recoils after a shot [i know Newton's third law.. but it doesn't need to be applied in relationships]
i have learnt that when friends are angry, sometimes they have the right to be angry. expecting that everyone will go according to your version of the story doesn't always hold good.you are not the only one who has a bad temper. one should have enough patience to look beyond that annoyance and wait for the other person to cool down. giving a few moments wont hurt. it can definitely save many arguments.
i have learnt that people don't always behave in the same manner. many a time i have heard people saying that he/she has changed... but what i feel is that its not people who change... its the situations that changes. we all just act according to the situation. a person who is nice to you, wont always behave nicely. accepting this small fact will have a huge impact on personal relationships. haven't we behaved rudely to people without any reasons whatsoever?
i have learnt that there might be something bad going on in somebody's life and we may not be the reason for it. blaming our-self for something we haven't done creates a void in mind that keeps on echoing "you are the culprit". not everyone has the patience to make us understand that we are not it. a person is going through problems and we keep nagging about "i am so sorry"... doesn't that sound irritating?
i have learnt that there are people whom you expect to kick your ass when you are going downhill but they actually help you stand up and then you realize that he/she never had anything against you and a beautiful relationship was already blossoming underneath just like the fungi that grows below the ground.
i have learnt that there will always be people who will laugh at your silly jokes, no matter how many times you repeat them...
i have learnt that there will always be people who will sit beside you and say nothing and after a while you feel that you had the best conversation of life.
i have learnt that there will always be people slap you when somebody leaves you and then hug you tight and say "cry it all out. i am here and always will be"
i have learnt that there will always be people who will eat your sandwiches and then take you out for lunch...
i have learnt that there will always be people who will fight dirty for you knowing that it was your fault..
i have learnt that there will always be people who will stand with you knowing that you will lose....
i have learnt that these "people" are the best part of life and we call them as FRIENDS and we should never let go of them... life without them.... INCOMPLETE
sometimes we find it really easy to get along with some people. we can be our-self around them and they accept us as we are. that is when we consider such people as our friend. we share our laughter and sorrows with them and they become incorporated in our lives. it gives us immense joy even when we are going downhill in life that there are certain people whom we can count upon and when we tell them the silly mistakes we made, wont laugh at us or behind our backs.
i have learnt that two people who do not even have same likes and dislikes can be very good friends. degree of similarity is not a measure of friendship[at least according to me]. an essential part of friendship is when one person can feel the pain of another one. every person has certain difficulties in life. if only we can see the problem from their perspective. we can become their worthy friends. just because we don't like something doesn't essentially mean that they are bad. once i read a book where there was a dialogue by the protagonist "
"the devil is not as bad as he is painted,i am not that bad as you think me to be"
i could not get that out of my thought. and then i realized that one cant have every bad quality in him/her. there is always something appreciable in everyone but we often have so many presumptions that we skip the good parts of them. there is always a friend in every person. usually we are so blind that we cant see them.
i have learnt that sometimes when friends mock us, they actually want us to improve. their intention is not to hurt us but to bring out the best in us. ever thought when friends comment us on our accent? or on our dressing sense? what good would it do to them if we speak better or wear better outfits? nothing. it will only improve our personality. still every-time someone comments on us, we backfire just like a gun that recoils after a shot [i know Newton's third law.. but it doesn't need to be applied in relationships]
i have learnt that when friends are angry, sometimes they have the right to be angry. expecting that everyone will go according to your version of the story doesn't always hold good.you are not the only one who has a bad temper. one should have enough patience to look beyond that annoyance and wait for the other person to cool down. giving a few moments wont hurt. it can definitely save many arguments.
i have learnt that people don't always behave in the same manner. many a time i have heard people saying that he/she has changed... but what i feel is that its not people who change... its the situations that changes. we all just act according to the situation. a person who is nice to you, wont always behave nicely. accepting this small fact will have a huge impact on personal relationships. haven't we behaved rudely to people without any reasons whatsoever?
i have learnt that there might be something bad going on in somebody's life and we may not be the reason for it. blaming our-self for something we haven't done creates a void in mind that keeps on echoing "you are the culprit". not everyone has the patience to make us understand that we are not it. a person is going through problems and we keep nagging about "i am so sorry"... doesn't that sound irritating?
i have learnt that there are people whom you expect to kick your ass when you are going downhill but they actually help you stand up and then you realize that he/she never had anything against you and a beautiful relationship was already blossoming underneath just like the fungi that grows below the ground.
i have learnt that there will always be people who will laugh at your silly jokes, no matter how many times you repeat them...
i have learnt that there will always be people who will sit beside you and say nothing and after a while you feel that you had the best conversation of life.
i have learnt that there will always be people slap you when somebody leaves you and then hug you tight and say "cry it all out. i am here and always will be"
i have learnt that there will always be people who will eat your sandwiches and then take you out for lunch...
i have learnt that there will always be people who will fight dirty for you knowing that it was your fault..
i have learnt that there will always be people who will stand with you knowing that you will lose....
i have learnt that these "people" are the best part of life and we call them as FRIENDS and we should never let go of them... life without them.... INCOMPLETE
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